Protecting Your Peace: When Clarity Changes Everything | AFR S5E3

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Welcome to Absolutely Focused
Radio, a place where clarity

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meets conversation, where
reflection becomes direction,

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and where growth is always
intentional.

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Hosted by Daniel, your sobriety
buddy and joining him today from

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the Sobriety Crew, the man whose
curiosity makes people think

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twice.
Curious Joe.

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Now, if you've been following
this journey, episode 1 helped

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us forgive the version of
ourselves that didn't know

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better.
Episode 2 reminded us that

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progress isn't just counting
gays.

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Progress is growth.
And today, Episode 3, explore

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something powerful.
What happens when clarity begins

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changing your story?
Let's jump into the

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conversation.
Daniel, I've got a question, but

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it's one of those questions
people don't answer the same way

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twice.
You ever notice something about

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insects?
Take ants, for example.

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Hundreds of them moving in the
same direction, same trail, same

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destination.
But every once in a while, one

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Ant suddenly stops.
Then it turns and walks

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somewhere completely different.
Now here's what I always

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wondered.
Was that Ant lost, or did it

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discover something the others
couldn't see yet?

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So let me ask you something.
What happens when everyone

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around you believes they know
where your life should be going,

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but something inside you begins
pulling you somewhere else?

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And here's the real question.
If someone interrupts your story

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and tells you how you should
tell it, is it still your story?

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Joe that question connects
directly to something we said in

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the last episode.
In episode 2, we talked about

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clarity, and we said something
important.

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Clarity begins when you start
changing the things around you.

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And when that begins happening,
life starts shifting.

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Your routines change.
Your habits change.

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Sometimes even the people around
you react differently because

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they're used to the old version
of you, the old patterns, the

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old habits, the old routines.
But clarity doesn't just change

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your thinking.
Clarity starts changing your

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environment, And when your
environment changes, your story

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begins evolving.
You know what that reminds me

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of?
A Caterpillar.

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A Caterpillar spends most of its
life crawling quietly, slowly,

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leaf to leaf.
But then something happens.

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It enters A cocoon, and when it
comes out, it's no longer

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crawling.
Now it's flying.

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But imagine the other
caterpillars watching that.

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They might say, wait a minute,
that's not how caterpillars

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move.
But the Caterpillar didn't ask

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for permission.
It didn't ask for approval.

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It just grew.
Sometimes people are still

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looking for the Caterpillar when
the butterfly has already

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arrived.
That's powerful, and I think

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about it like technology.
Imagine your mind like a phone.

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Every day people try installing
apps on your system.

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Opinions, expectations, fear,
doubt.

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Next thing you know, your system
slows down.

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Too many programs running, too
many notifications, too many

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voices.
Sobriety, growth, mindfulness.

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That's when you begin asking a
powerful question.

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Which apps belong on my system
and which ones need to be

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uninstalled?
Because sometimes the biggest

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battlefield in life is the one
between your ears.

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People think positivity means
pretending everything is OK, but

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real positivity isn't
pretending.

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Positivity is not smiling while
drowning.

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Real positivity is choosing
clarity even when the mind gets

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loud.
That reminds me of something

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funny.
You ever sing in the shower?

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You feel like a superstar.
You're hitting notes, feeling

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confident.
You think you sound amazing.

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But then someone outside the
bathroom hears you and says,

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hey, that sounds a little
different out here.

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Sometimes feedback isn't
criticism.

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Sometimes it's calibration, like
when your GPS suddenly says

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recalculating route.
It's not telling you you're

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lost, it's just helping you get
where you're going a little

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smarter.
Hey, hey, not to interrupt this

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great conversation, but real
quick, if you're enjoying this

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moment with Daniel and Curious
Joe, do us a favour.

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All right, let's jump back into

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the conversation.
There's a moment many people

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remember.
A quiet moment.

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Maybe you're holding a drink.
Maybe you're about to make a

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decision and something inside
your mind whispers.

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Maybe not, but sometimes we
ignore that whisper.

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Then the next morning comes and
you remember that moment, that

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voice, that moment of clarity.
That moment is your turning

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point.
Here's something powerful I've

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learned.
We are the authors of our

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future.
The words we repeat, the

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thoughts we feed our mind, they
become the script our

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subconscious follow.
Your subconscious doesn't know

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when you're joking, it simply
listens.

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Which means sometimes growth
begins with something simple,

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changing the words you say to
yourself.

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You know what this reminds me
of?

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Bees.
Bees visit hundreds of flowers.

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Different shapes, different
colors, different places, but

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the honey they create, that
honey belongs to the bee, not

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the flowers.
And maybe life works the same

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way.
We gather experiences from many

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places, but the meaning, the
meaning belongs to us.

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Thank you for spending this
moment with us on Absolutely

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Focused Radio.
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something inside you, we created
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conversation.
You can download it in the

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Resources section of our
website.

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And if you're just joining the
journey, you may want to revisit

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episodes one and two.
Each episode builds on the last.

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Until next time, smile on
purpose, because you are the

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purpose.
Stay focused, stay growing.

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Stay awesome.
Daniel, before we go, let me ask

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you one more question.
If clarity changes your story,

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what happens the moment you
finally decide to trust

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yourself?
Used to walk with my head down.

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Shadows were my only friend.
Now I'm standing in the

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spotlight.
This is not